I notice we hurt each other with our fear so much.
The husband who snaps at the wife for making an innocent mistake about what he was going to do–his fear from the weight of past unjust expectations makes him yell at her “why did you say that? Would you say something I am not going to do?”
The dad who flinches every time her daughter did something he fears would offend others, making her sad once again of not winning his approval.
The mother who becomes impatient with her baby, fearful of what potential negative reactions she would be receiving from the men she had to negotiate with.…